Being an Outcast: What It Feels Like When You Don’t Fit In

This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt like the odd one out.

For the People Who Never Really Felt Like They Belonged

You know that feeling when you’re surrounded by people but still feel like you’re not actually there? Like you’re on a different wave than everyone else?

You’re not alone in that.

What It Actually Feels Like

Being an outcast isn’t always some dramatic movie moment. Most of the time, it’s quiet. It’s subtle. You show up, but you never feel seen.

You try to interact and engage with people, but it never really clicks. You’re in the group chat, but not really part of the convo. You’re at the party, but your mind’s somewhere else.

Sometimes you wonder if maybe something’s wrong with you. But deep down, you know it’s not that. You’re just built different.

Why It Hits So Hard

It’s exhausting trying to fit into spaces where you don’t feel wanted—or worse, where you feel invisible.

So you start toning yourself down. Saying less. Your social battery is running out. Doing what everyone else does just to not feel out of place. But that only makes it worse. Because now you’re not even being you anymore.

And the truth is—fake fitting in feels worse than standing out.

My Experience with Feeling Alone

After my dad passed away, I kind of isolated myself from everyone. I’ve always been quiet, but that took it to a different level. I stopped trying to force connections.

I’ve never been the type to need a ton of friends. I’d rather have a couple real ones than a bunch of people who only talk to me when when they’re bored or when they need someone. But it’s hard finding people who think like you—who actually care about stuff, who dream big, who want more than just parties and small talk.

That’s why I started writing music. Why I started sharing stuff like this. So if you’ve been feeling the same way, you know someone out there gets it.

📲 @willsolus
🎧 My song “outkast” might hit home for you too.

If You Feel Out of Place, Maybe That’s the Point

Usually its better to be alone than to bewith the wrong group of people. Sometimes its a trial God gives you that will benefit your life. Think about it, no useless parties, no useless convos, just time to work on your yourself, passions, and goals. Learning to be alone and finding peace and happiness of being alone. Thats one of the best skills you can learn. Not having to depend on people but relying on yourself. The people who stand out usually don’t fit in. That’s just how it is.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re too quiet, too deep, too intense, too different—maybe you’re exactly who you’re supposed to be.

You’re not meant to be everyone’s cup of tea. You’re meant to be real. And not everyone can handle real.

What’s Helped Me Deal With It

• Writing stuff down – Even if no one reads it, it helps clear your mind.
• Music – Whether I’m making it or just listening to songs that hit, it makes things feel lighter.
• One real convo > 10 fake ones – Seriously. Find someone who gets it, even if it’s just one person.
• Letting go of people who don’t get me – No shade, no hate. Just peace.
• Find peace with God, and his will for you
• Find your passion and hobby, use all the free time you have now to work on that
• Get a job, to support your passion

You’re Not Broken—You’re Just Different

There’s nothing wrong with being the one who thinks deeper or feels more. You’re not too much. You’re not too weird.

You’re just not pretending. And that’s rare.

If You Made It This Far, We Probably Got Something in Common

If this post felt like your own thoughts, you’re not alone.

I’m building something for people like us—music, blogs, whatever. A space where you don’t have to fake anything.

📲 Hit me on IG if you ever need someone to talk to.
🎧 Check out “outkast” – I wrote it for this exact reason.
📝 More posts like this if you ever need words that actually feel real.